6/24/2009

...no more Mr. Nice guy...

Some really, really horrible things just came to light this past Monday.

It was supposed to be a good - no...great day for me.

It was supposed to change my life for nothing but the better.

It was supposed to be the start of security and enjoyment of life.

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It's wasn't supposed to go down like this....not like this.

And I really hate myself, because in the end, it comes down to my fault. A fault I thought had died a long time ago.

But I was wrong, and now I have to deal with the outcome, and relive the mistake 100 times over.

I stopped believing in karma at 5 o'clock on Monday. I stopped realizing my way of life was the right way.

This isn't just some bump in the road, or even a detour.

This road is closed.

I'll be stepping away from this blog for a while as I decide how to deal with all this. Not that it matters all that much, I toss a stupid irrelevant post up here, what? Every 2 weeks?

Hopefully, I'll see (aka "read") you all soon enough.

Flash

6/15/2009

...it's always about MEME, isn't it?...

1. My 5 favorite things to eat are:

8-finger cavatelli

pickles

S’more pop tarts

Super pretzels

Raw cookie dough


2. My 5 best childhood friends were:

Joe, who befriended me in first grade and we became inseparable. That is, until he got married. I stood up in his wedding….and that’s the end of the story. Never talked or saw him again.

Jill. Yeah, the “girl next door” I’ve written so much about. She was the first girl who really caught my fancy. We hung out a lot. And that was it. She made sure of it.

Ray. You were a creepy vampire looking evil son of a bitch! And that’s why we loved you.

Mike. You were so weird and the first guy who jumped on any idea we had. When your mom died in 7th grade, you were never the same again. After graduation, we never saw you again. I hope your doing great.

Tommy, my cousin. Lived next door, a year older then me. Always a fall back guy to hang out with. Until he got his first girlfriend. Then there wasn’t time for Cousin Flash.


3. My 5 favorite non-alcoholic beverages are:

Lo-Carb Monster

Arnold Palmer (half ice tea, half lemonade)

Diet Mountain Dew

Slurpee’s

Regular Pepsi


4. My 5 high school girlfriends were:

Wendy – She was more of that “first real girl” who paid attention to me. She wasn’t that pretty, I was just a freshman, just moved to a new town, and didn’t know anyone. She lived in the same building as me, 2 floors up. It didn’t last long. She moved away 2 months after I moved in.

Jenny – Fist girl to talk to me after moving to a new town. Just transferred schools 75% of the way through freshman year, so I didn’t have time to really sit down and meet anyone. Jenny was the first one who said hi and made me feel good. Thanks to her, I met all my current friends.

Tracy – Back then, a Jewish girl. We liked each other, but her mom made her break up with me because I didn’t call her for 2 days before the spring dance. Little did they know I was in the hospital with the start of my grandfathers conditions. I was on my way out the door to pick her up for this dance when she called and broke it off with me.

Lisa – Met her after Tracy. I was a sophomore, she was a junior at a totally different school. Met her through Jill. Went to prom together. She stole my heart, then crushed it when she went to a party and made out with some guy. At least she had the decency to break it off with me afterwards.

Teresa – Met first day of sophomore year. Her face was...okay, less then fantastic, but what a body! We broke up after I unknowing beat the hell out of her younger brother.


5. My 5 most annoying traits are:

I get mean if I’m in a bad mood. Not “I wish you would die” kinda mean, just “Leave me the hell alone mean”

I can switch gears in a heart beat and go from cool and collected to pissed off at something said that I took the wrong way.

I’m forgiving, even to people who do not deserve kindness, and it bites me in the ass.

I’m shy around girls.

I’m a procrastinator/workaholic. Meaning, give me a deadline, and I’ll dilly around it until 4 days prior. Then work my ass off and stress out over it. Oddly enough, I also produce my best work during those moments.


6. If you ask me, my 5 best qualities are:

I’m comfortable laughing at myself.

I’m dedicated.

I’ll let my passengers in the car control the radio and temp.

I’m really laid back. I don’t let stupid stuff bother me. If I’m going to a party and it’s cancelled, hey, oh well. No problem. Going to be late coming to my place? Not a big deal. There is no time limit at my place.

I look to the future and learn from the past.


7. The names of 5 pets I've owned in my life are:

Pepper - the albino goldfish

Peanut – the white ferret

Belfour – the brown black-footed ferret, who was named after my favorite goalie.

Methos – The grey and black Egyptian Mew. Lovable, beautiful eyes, and my second henchman. Loves to butt heads with me. Physically butt heads.

Flashy – The orange brother to Methos. My right hand man, he knows the chorus to “Walking on Sunshine”, literally talks to me and has his stool he sits on and watches me cook.


8. The 5 things I like best about my job are:

I’m my own boss. Work on my time when I feel like it.

I get to create stuff people could never imagine.

I learn so much when hired to do jobs for Museums or the city.

Film maker is just a cool title to have on a business card.

If it’s electronic, it’s a tax write off.


9. My 5 favorite TV shows are:

Sopranos - Ahh, life of a mobster.

House – Finally, a doctor show not based around lame characters!

Mythbusters – Hot co-host and cool shit usually blowing up. Plus, I’ve learned how to build so many things from that show.

The Drew Carey Show – I know it’s been out of syndication for like 6 years now, but I still laugh my ass off at the reruns and they never cease being funny.

Good Eats – Alton Brown makes the show cool, and I’ve used some of his recipes as a base for my own.


10. My 5 favorite authors are:

Chuck Palanuick
Christopher Moore
Kevin Smith
Robert Kirkman
J. Jacques


11. The 5 things I'm most scared of :

Dying before I’m truly happy

Fire, Flood or Robbery of my house

Not being able to provide for the people closest to me.

Failure.

A small part of my past coming back and ruining my future chances.


12. My 5 most annoying habits are:

I bite my fingernails

Not panicking (okay, this has been said it’s annoying to other people)

Losing my cool on something simple

Trying too hard to impress sometimes

Sometimes I don’t answer texts if I feel like there’s no need to respond.


13. The 5 primary reasons why I answered this Meme:

Something to do.

Needed something to post here.

Better then looking up stupid stuff on the Internet while I wait for footage to process.

A good time for self reflection....okay, I couldn't say that with a straight face.

More crap nobody cared to know about me.

6/08/2009

...”Okay, so there was this guy”...

This weekend, my brother stayed over at my place to get away from his home life (and he knows I get Discovery Health on my TV), when a moment came up that made me stop and think about something grander in scale.

At one point, we had ordered a pizza, and before the delivery guy came to the house, I had changed from my beer logo’d filthy project shirt to something a bit nicer. And my brother started in on me about being "metro" and why did I change and stuff like that.

I thought about it, and realized that I changed because I didn’t want to be some person’s story. I don’t want to be that guy that the delivery boy goes back to work and goes “Oh man, you should have seen the last delivery. The guy was a total hillbilly. Had this beer shirt on and it was filthy. Total loser.”

Think about it. Think about how many times did you turn to your friends while out to go “Oh my god, did you see what she’s wearing?” And truthfully, it would be stupid to think that anyone has NEVER been the subject of being made fun of behind their back.

Because isn’t that what high school is for?

So I take pride in what I look like for others. I smell the pits, toss a hat on if my hair is messy, a clean shirt. People say that labels you as Metro. I say that just shows I’m considerate to others.

Because nobody wants to be the “bad story”. The good story is okay. Being that guy that rocks the bedroom, that’s a great story. Hell, that story will go on my tombstone. But the guy who smells like rotten meat. Yeah, not good to be known by.

So I toss on a clean, non-endorsed shirt for the delivery person. I roll on some deodorant when I go out to cut the grass in case my neighbor wants to chat. I put on a clean shirt to run to the lumber yard to pick up a replacement board.

I take a little pride in myself. Because a little pride prevents bad stories.

Flash

6/04/2009

...Dear You: The Much Needed Edition...

Dear you, All of you’s,
If it really that important in your menial life to be “first” on any comment board? And not only to be first, but to just write “first” and that’s it? Not to even leave a comment or answer or anything? Is your life that sad that your only accomplishment to look forward to is to be the first poster on a forum? Is that going to get you a great job? “Why am I qualified for this position? Well, I was first to comment on Woot.com. Yeah! That’s what you call taking charge.”

Dear you,
Enjoy it while it lasts. Brag about it, like you’ve been doing. Congrats. We’re all very proud of you while we roll our eyes. Hold onto that moment that you brag about. Because in a while, it’s all going to come crashing down on you.

Dear you,
Just because something is titled a certain way, doesn’t mean to take it literally. You’re fucking everything up for everyone else just to please your stupid thoughts.

Dear you,
It’s not my fault it doesn’t work. It’s not my job to make it work. I will not have you sit there and blame me for something another guy that you hired failed on. I am no one’s babysitter. Take it up with him.

Dear you,
You are a piece of dog shit. The only reason I don’t rip your arms off is out of respect for the family. You know how badly you’re hated. Yet when there is a get together, you try your hardest to piss everyone off. Your own wife hates you. So if I’m speaking to someone else about my work, don’t drop your 2 cents in, You haven’t worked for the last 6 years, sucking off the governments tit the whole way, faking injuries. You are scum, and I know you fear me. You used to beat me as a kid in wrestling matches. But I got bigger, stronger. And Then I beat you. Not only beat you, but made you wince in pain. So if you’d like to put my years of martial arts against your mouth again, anytime. Until then, shut the fuck up.

Dear you,
It sucks. It’s always sucked and everyone hates it. You surround yourself with people who won’t give you honesty out of fear. And while that avoids conflict, it also avoids what needs to be said.

Dear you,
I’m sorry I lost my temper. When it comes to cooking, I always strive to be the best I can. When I fail, I always think it makes me look stupid, when in actuality, me losing my cool makes me look stupid.

Dear you,
Knock it the fuck off. It’s always “Woe is you” and unless your happy, nobodies happy.

Dear you,
Hi. I’m Flash, we met at the store, in the parking lot, when I was riding the shopping cart full of groceries and almost ran into you. You smiled, totally shrugging off my childish ways. I just want you to know, you had the most beautiful smile I’d ever seen on a stranger.

Dear you,
If nobodies going to say it, I will. TRIM THE EYEBROWS! A unibrow on a woman is not attractive.

Dear you,

Wish me luck, cause I’ll need it June 22nd.

5/23/2009

...the Flash of Cakes...

So here's the Tale of the Cake, as promised.

Friday, the day before the shower. Weather was cold and miserable with rain dumping down hard. I had a meeting for the NASA project that morning, which went long. Afterwards, I headed over to my moms.

Since this was both of our project, mom decided she would make the cake and I would take care of the decorating. So I get to moms house around 1.

The cakes were not ready. The problem was, they had been baking for 2 hours before I walked in the door. After removing them from the oven, I rendered then totally useless. The outer crust was on the verge of burnt, while the inside was more liquid then sponge cake. My mom apologized, and now it was up to me to not only decorate it, but make it as well.

I run to the store and managed to catch a break in the ran going in. I got what I needed for the planned cakes, and upon exiting, the heavens opened up and I half expected to see an ark waiting in the parking lot. Now, I'm a far-parker. Meaning I'll park at the very end of a parking lot. This gets me some walking in and also saves the car from getting dinged or scratched.

Now I have what would probably be a 1 block walk from the doors to my car...in a solid
downpour. I put my hood up, tie the bags tight, and haul ass, making it in about 15 seconds, but none the less, soaked to the skivees.

This was only the start of it.

I started working my magic. I had decided on a fudge marble for the bottom for stability with a white cake topper that I had tinted pink to match my sisters wedding color. (Thank you Wilton's for actually putting the color name on the dye. Helps us color blind people)

I start baking. While the cakes are cooking, I'm making homemade chocolate for the layers. The cakes take 3 times longer because of the size of the pan, so I have to constantly adjust the temp
to prevent the sides from burning. Luckily, my oven rocks, and no problems were had except for time.

The cakes came out clean, so it was time to slice these suckers in half to fill with the home made chocolate. My sister loves chocolate, so it was only fitting that her wedding cake would have a thick gooey layer right in the middle. I layer it in, set the halves together, and set them in my fridge for an hour to set the chocolate fast to prevent any sagging.

It is now 6:30 pm, and I have to make the butter cream frosting that will seal the cakes and make a glue for the fondant that will go on later. The cakes come out , set, and go to the kitchen table while I finish the butter-cream frosting.

Using my new cake spatula, I enguaged in probably the hardest frosting I have ever done.

Why, you ask?

Because once you frost the cakes, you have to set it in the fridge for 2 hours to harden. Once hardened, you place the fondant over it. Now when you frost the cakes, any imperfections will be mirrored in the fondant. So a swirl mark, a divot, any imperfection, will show through. So for an hour, working in centimeter increments on a lazy susan, I smoothed, filled, smoothed, buffed, fixed and iced those damn cakes. Once done (both the cakes and my nerves0 they went into the fridge to harden.

I turn to my kitchen. Everything is coated in a thin layer of powdered sugar. I have so many dishes in the sink. I load the dishwasher full, and it barely makes a dent. So for the two hours while the cakes were setting, I cleaned, scrubbed and got the kitchen ready for the next wave.

9:30, the cakes come out, back to the kitchen table. I roll out my rolling mat, prep the work area, and plop the fondant down to begin rolling. Now my mat is supposed to be non stick.

Bullshit.

And with fondant, you can't use anything that isn't pure white, so powdered sugar is the only thing you can use to keep it from sticking. It doesn't work that well.

So here's the match for rolling fondant:

Bottom cake was 8 inches wide, 4 inches tall. This means I have to roll out a 16 inch circle. My fondant rolling pin was only 12 inches long, which means once I got close to the size needed, it wasn't single pass anymore, meaning ridges were forming. A half hour later, it was 16 inches as best as I could. On the cake it went.

Now, dropping rolled fondant onto a cake is a one time chance. If you're off by anything more then 1 millimeter, forget it, cause the fondant fuses to the frosting. if you have to peel it up, you have to re-fost. Luckily, I nailed it on the first drop. The smaller top tier was just of a pain, but successful.

I toss both pieces in the fridge to harden overnight to make it easier to handle and transport. It is now 1 am.

The next day, I wrap them in wax paper, put them in a fully padded transport box, and go to the hall where it was being held.

Luckily, no damage had been done to the cakes in transport, so I glove up, and start decorating it.

An hour later, here's the final product:


At the party, my sister loved it, and wanted to know if I was going to do her full size cake. I told her "no" initially, because making the smaller one was hell and a half.

But after thinking about it, I may call in for some help, and with what I learned from this last one, then full size shouldn't be that hard to pull off...

So I think I will do it for her. But for that, I'm using real flowers.

After the party that night at home, I fell asleep at 10 pm. I was so mentally and physically exhausted....

But I learned something new.

I learned how to make a wedding cake.

Flash

5/20/2009

...thats 12 hours of my life gone...

The cake.

It's done.

I just have to find pictures of the chaos that wrapped it.

But it turned out nice.

to be continued...

5/11/2009

...the Cake Countdown begins...

My sisters Bridal Shower is this upcoming weekend, and to be safe, I've decided to do a test run cake for it. I know some of you (ahem, MONA!) have been requesting pictures of it, but it has not even been made yet.

My culinary prowess is quite large, but I've never been one for the sweet side of cooking. Not to say I haven't made cookies or cakes or anything like that, but a wedding cake isn't a cookie or cupcake. This is the center piece of my sisters reception.

When she asked my mom and I to make her cake, we actually thought she was kidding, because earlier that day, she asked me to be ordained as a minister to marry them. And although she was kinda serious on the ordaining thing (which I won't do. "Priest Lite" doesn't look good on a resume), she was really serious on the cake thing.

So my mom and I have been planning, and reshaping, and searching and exhausting ourselves on the best method. Then my sister sent us a picture of what she loved. We started planning. Then she sent us another picture of a even better cake cake. Alright scrap those plans and reformulate the process. And she sent another...and another.... And we scraps the plans, and another and another.

Finally she found the one. The wedding cake she imagined having as a child. Here it is:
Last night, my mom and I sat down and broke this cake apart like we were diagramming the future of skyscrapers. Making modifications to the shape and diagramming the thickness. Calculating the number of servings against different cuts. Altering iced pearls to ribbons to wrap the cake. Flavors vs. stability. Cake densities versus tiers. Methods of cooking against just scrapping it and ordering her a cake.

At one point my brother stood by and listened to us for a moment, and said "You know, I used to be proud of telling people my brother was an accomplished filmmaker. Now when asked, all I can say is 'He makes wedding cakes', and that is sad." My mom laughed at that. I didn't.

On the way home, I stopped by B-dubs near my house to watch the hockey playoff games and eat wings and ogle the ladies, to prove that this wedding cake decorating thing isn't turning me soft.

And I ogled and ate wings and cheered for the fights! This cake thing has not turned me soft at all. In fact, if I could pull this off...if I could make this work....wedding cakes pull in a ton of money.

So last night, I stood in my kitchen, bowl of buttercream frosting in my hand and powered sugar on my shirt and declared "I am MAN. A man who can make a wedding cake!"

Flash